Topic 1: Memory
“It’s not the goodbyes that hurt, it’s the flashbacks and the memories that follow.” –Gray Fullbuster
My incident about forgetting something important in my personal life is related to this quote. Back in Morocco, I was in a happy relationship with the most beautiful girl in this world. Everything was running smoothly so does our relationship. I was in Morocco and when life allowed me to study abroad, everything went on a different route. I became busy in preparing for my exams and eventually, I lost interest in my relationship. I started behaving weirdly and the day came when I forgot my girlfriend’s birthday. Eventually, I forgot to text her and this put our relationship on the verge of destruction. Today, when I evaluate myself and the factors which participated in our separation, I consider a lack of motivation and distraction as important reasons behind it.
Firstly, lack of motivation was the reason I started to forget her. Therefore, in personal relationships, when a person is interested and eager, he can easily remember all important occasions related to the other person. My real desire was converted to studying abroad instead of focussing on saving my relationship. I lost interest in my relationship and felt like I just have to focus on my studies. My real desire was to study abroad rather than remembering my girlfriend’s birthdays. I feel regret over my mistakes today but it is useless to cry over spilled milk. Hence, lack of motivation snatched the most beautiful moments of my life which I started to spend with her.
Further, a lack of motivation is connected with distraction. A person always achieves his aims by focussing over main goals and staying persistent. I was distracted at that time. I did not pay attention to rectify and accept my mistakes. I took the decision of separation which was quite painful for her. Although, I shifted my aim towards something big I could have achieved all those big things with her as well. I thought that I should end this toxic relationship and took a new start in my life. A new life in the USA but I was wrong with my decisions. You can still achieve big things by taking your relationships to parallel with you. I was distracted from my relationship goals and lost something precious in my life. Hence, distraction taught me an important life lesson to stay commit and focus on things you love in your life.
In conclusion, there are moments in life when you forget to express your feelings or remember important dates. It is because either you are not motivated or you are distracted from your cause. The same things happened to me where I lost my real desire in my relationship and distracted from my main cause. I forgot to remember my girlfriend’s birthday which led to a dispute among us. I forgot to text her randomly which showed that I am not interested anymore. I wish I will not repeat these mistakes in any of the personal relationships anymore.