Relational Challenges
As a secure adult, I tend to be comfortable opening up to friends and strangers, which can be challenging, especially when the individuals are experiencing negative emotions and are not open to sharing. It is complicated to show support to individuals with disorganized and ambivalent attachment styles since they need constant reassurance that you will be emotionally available for them (Lally, 2019). Besides, it is challenging to find a partner willing to compromise, especially if they are avoidant adults who are often insensitive and emotionally unavailable. Secure adults opt for real relationships, and finding a real partner is somewhat challenging since they prefer honest conversations. It is, therefore, challenging to commit to partners with different love expectations.
Developmental Challenges
Personally, the effort to remain civil in a political or intimate discussion can be overwhelming, especially with an avoidant friend or partner who tends to be more opinionated and insensitive to others. Therefore, secure adults have to tolerate their partners even when they are wrong to avoid heated disagreements or conflicts (Guerrero & McEwan, 2009). Besides, secure adults are more open to advice from friends and families, and it can be difficult for them to make sound decisions. Personally, making impartial decisions is difficult, especially with individuals with questionable personalities. Therefore, knowing when to compromise is a developmental challenge apparent with secure adults.
Overcoming the Challenges
First and foremost, it is essential to understand the other types of attachment styles manifested by adults. Secure individuals tend to be more compassionate and trusting to other people; it is necessary to take the necessary precautions to avoid harm (Andrews, 2017). Secondly, I should strive to be more independent, especially in the absence of friends and family. Lastly, I can purpose to remain objective while communicating with other people.
References
Andrews, E. E., & Hicks, R. E. (2017). Dealing with anxiety: Relationships among interpersonal attachment style, psychological wellbeing, and trait anxiety. ijps, 9(4).
Guerrero, L. K., Farinelli, L., & McEwan, B. (2009). Attachment and relational satisfaction: The mediating effect of emotional communication. Communication Monographs, 76(4), 487-514.
Lally, M. (2019). Lifespan Development: A Psychological Perspective by Martha Lally and Suzanne Valentine-French.