Couple Interview Analysis
Introduction
Interviews are essential sources of information. Once someone gets deep in interviewing, some crucial revelations arise and hence prove vital. In health research, there are many instances that couple related interviews are carried out. The discussions are also an essential aid in assessing various aspects of religion and theology. It is through such interviews that household expression in psychological, anthropological, and social-cultural matters is assessed (Mavhandu-Mudzusi, 2018). In this essay, an interview of a married couple was done, and an analysis of the findings is thereby brought out herein.
The Interview Analysis
The interview was carried out in a bid to understand couple dynamics. After meeting with this married couple of Mr and Mrs Rawlings, there was all-important knowledge on the couple dynamics that they revealed. The interview was carried out. It was a successful interview they gave in the set-aside timing. The couple was more dynamic as they chose over the eighteen years they have stayed in marriage to draw closer to the other. The extensive analysis of the interview is made in the preceding paragraphs.
Examination of Generational Issues
At the beginning of the interviewing session, I was wondering how the future looked like for this married couple. In my mind raced various questions on how they had managed to stay together for almost two decades in a society that divorce was a common thing. This couple had known each other since they were in college. Their love life began in college days that they used to visit the movie theatres after busy weeks of examination preparations. After six months of courting, they finally had their first intimate relationship during that summer holiday. It was followed by a series of touring and photography sessions. The first cohabitation they had was after they graduated from law school. It was three months later after they both qualified to the bar that they decided to get married. They settled in a rented apartment.
The couple has struggled with generational issues. The most crucial test of their relationship came upon when deciding on childbearing. Mr Rawlings wanted to settle down immediately and sire over five children. On the other hand, the wife wanted a child after rising highly to her career ambitions. The rift was so high that they had to seek the intervention of a relationship counsellor. Ultimately the wife gave in, but trouble arose since the husband lost his job a few weeks before the wife delivered. The hard economic grounds forced the wife to travel upcountry to her parental home in a bid to save the situation. The husband narrates that the two years before he was reinstated marked the hardest moment. The couple sighs as they recount the experience. Besides, the other generational crisis came upon in the educational goals. The wife enrolled earlier in her doctoral studies than the husband, and he felt insecure. The ego of a man generally in such a relationship dictates that the wife is less educated than him. The thought of living with a more educated wife was a burden that he lived with until he was awarded his doctoral degree years later.
Socio-Cultural Issues
Additionally, there have also been some socio-cultural aspects that the family has encountered over time. The factors that they have faced have involved thoughts and feelings that the society they were reared influenced. In their early ages in marriage, some elements included food choice and dressing patterns. Mrs Rawlings, being brought up in an urban setting, felt that she was okay in dressing in short dresses and skirts. Her husband was never comfortable seeing the wife in such a sharp dressing. It was a matter of time that he finally gave in. In other social issues, the couple has been doing well since they both have a legal background that has seen them have a standard view in life. I have a firm resolve that couples need to analyze the social and cultural aspects that surround them in their courting period.
Relational Issues
From the interview, there were relational issues that were detected. On account of an incident that the wife cheated, Mr Rawlings recalls in a gravel voice. The incidence of cheating that the wife did with a young lad who was staying in the neighbourhood. He stood to stay with her despite the frustration and the hurt. On her account, she complained of the continual lack of innovative methods in their sexual life at that time. I think that the couple, at this point, needed a more in-depth talk to bring out their grievances. It was a dark matter that could have resulted in divorce; was it not for the strong resilience in the husband. Before one member of the couple goes out cheating, it is nice that they get a method to share.
Generational Patterns and Problems
Lastly, the interview expressed that issues of domestic violence faced the relationship at the point. The man had engaged in drinking activities with his colleagues. He used to come at home late nights and complain over unperformed roles. Due to the misuse of funds, the family could not meet to invest and also pay their utilities. The husband could beat her and the children out of the house. It was a matter that saw him imprisoned for six months in a bid of retribution of his offences. Another relational defining moment came at a time that the wife diagnosed with breast cancer. During this time, Mrs Rawlings had to undergo a lumpectomy. The husband felt that it was a curse that the wife was suffering. He wanted to leave with his lastborn and live in uptown at a house that they had purchased. The wife felt low, and she narrates with tears in her eyes, it is clear evidence that she contemplated having suicide when all this happened. It took much family intervention to make stay together. A closer look at the issue saw that there is a need for either partner to maintain a definite character. The character that is convenient with the other partner regardless of the obstacles.
Theoretical conceptualization and Goals Noted
To sum up: Counselling is needed to salvage this marriage. The major components to be looked deeper include mental forgiveness of past events. There is still a bitter account from the previous negative experiences, and this seems like it is piling up. There should be a clear role of expectations too that need to be identified from both partners for this couple to be a happily wedded couple for the rest of their sunset years (Lawrence et al., 2009). The relationship is at risk of a divorce if the former accounts remain not dealt with professionally. In this relationship, some places need to be handled pronto. The interpersonal skills and communication need to be changed immediately to avoid further resurfacing of the stated past negative emotions. Higher self-esteem needs to be achieved for the wife to stabilize and defeat the health condition stigma that she feels subjected. Lastly, in a counselling session, there should be advocated for more family time to increase decision-making skills and confidence in both parties.
References
Lawrence, E., Brock, R. L., Barry, R. A., Langer, A., & Bunde, M. (2009). Assessing relationship quality: Development of an interview and implications for couple assessment and intervention. Psychology of relationships, 173-189.
Mavhandu-Mudzusi, A. H. (2018). The couple interview as a method of collecting data in interpretative phenomenological analysis studies. International Journal of Qualitative Methods, 17(1), 1609406917750994.
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