Suzy Kassem once said, “It is better never to make a judgment of a person character by what other people say” (Kassem, 2011). For the better part of my life now I have come to agree with these words. I have encountered situations where I judge an individual based on what people say and later come to regret the consequences. For example, I once fall a victim of misjudging the kindness of a classmate towards me based on what I heard from others.
The situation happened last semester at the time of my saddest moment in life. I had lost my grandmother who was my best friend and also my mentor. Her sudden demise made my life dull, and I could hardly concentrate on my studies. My longstanding friend could not help much since we were not in the same class. I was left to deal with the situation. Luckily enough I got one of my group members who supported me in all the circumstances. The guy by name Renny would assist my group to complete group assignments in my absence, helped me with my homework and would do all it takes to cover my absence and lack of class work interest.
Unfortunately, I was stupid enough not to see all that Renny was doing for me and instead misjudged his kindness towards me. Although at the beginning I was grateful, I started questioning his concern to me. I concluded that he was interested in me. I had heard a number of my classmates’ talk of Renny who was said to be girls’ great favorite for his boldness and cheerful character. With this in mind, I had all the reasons to believe the basis of his kindness was the interest towards me.
I started being hostile to him and would try and avoid him most of the times. Renny noticed my attitude change towards him, and he also became cold to me. As a result, our friendship ties got broken. Later I learned from Renny’s best friend that his kindness was due to what I was going through. Having gone through the same situation last year after losing his mother from an accident, he was in a better position to understand what I was going through and therefore offered to walk with me during that journey.
I felt sorry for my wrong judgment and have always regretted my stupid actions. I later apologized and have since been great friends. I learned what Suzy Kasem says “never to judge a book by its cover” (Kassem, 2011). Since then am more careful when making any judgment.