Lessons we learn from our behaviors
According to psychologists, the behavior is influenced by situations one is in because there are situations that may prompt a person to act disorderly or inappropriately. For instance, bullying in schools is a behavior that may make a student introvert or violent as a way of adapting to current situations. As a result, anger can be driven by many factors; most of them usually are psychological. For me, I wouldn’t say that I had anger issues but, but the situation I caught myself in made me react in the way I did. I was caught in a confrontation with this boy during inter-schools balls competition who stepped on me without saying sorry. He was one of the craziest bully because even after confronting him, he intentionally stepped on me again to see what I could do. It was so disrespectful and inhuman because I was on my sandals.
We fought, and I had to break his nose that led him to bleed badly. Later, he accompanied his parents and filed a complaint in my school. As a result, the disciplinary committee for our school put me under probation and asked me to do a 20 hours community service. In as much as my action was for self-defense, the impacts were severe enough to teach me a valuable lesson in life.
The first lesson that I learned is that I should always control my anger or emotions because they may lead me into serious troubles. As a result, I decided to use subtle ways of solving issues in the future. Because when you address violence with violence, a lot is at stake. For instance, you may get a severe injury that may affect you severely. Take, for example, fighting and losing an eye, then you remain blind for the rest of your life. Another thing is that you might hit your opponent in a delicate place and kill him and get arrested and jailed.
Another lesson is that I should always think about the impacts of my actions on society, my family, and my well-being. For instance, my fight affected The Hail University community. My behavior impacted the brand image of the school that is famous for producing sound and well-behaved graduates who have a better influence in society. One of the missions of school is producing professionals who are ready to assist and support the community through development. Therefore, fighting is against the school rules and code of conduct. As a result, I deserved to be punished for what I did.
Moreover, I learned that there are laws that are meant to punish appropriate behaviors in society. Therefore, the most appropriate action I could have taken is to report the incident school or the police. The school or the police officers are legible to punish criminal behaviors somewhat based on the magnitude of the case.
As a graduate, I am supposed to show a better example to the other young people who always emulate what the elders do. As a husband and a father of four kids, I am also supposed to nurture my kids into becoming responsible people in the future. On the contrary, my behavior is shameful and irresponsible, creating a bad picture for both my wife and kids. How am I supposed to punish them or counsel them when they engage in behavior such as mine? These and many other questions ran in through my mind while I was doing my community service.
When you put on probation, it means that you are the center of focus for the administration. As a result, being put on probation was one of my worst nightmares. It was a nightmare because I am sloppy sometimes; I have always been found in some simple misconduct since high school. Therefore, the situation made me try so much to avoid mistakes or trouble of any kind. However, I was never free because I felt that I am always being watched, the feeling of being watched lowered my self-esteem a great deal.
Initially, I hated the school for punishing me because I knew very well that I was right, and the other boy deserved it. I felt so angry that I almost hated our school’s dean. But thanks to my school because it referred me to a counselor, who talked me through right and wrong. She told me that “the end does not justify the means.” What she meant is that a good deed accomplished through bad means is also wrong or bad. Therefore, even though I needed to act or campaign against such bad behaviors, I needed to do it in the most civilized manner.
Finally, I also learned is that we should always not condone inappropriate behavior or any mistreatment in society. To make the world a better place, we need to be each other’s keeper. Think about how you would feel if you experience what you are willing to do to another person. I will always campaign against behaviors like bullying, mistreatments, assault, and any sorts of actions that cause psychological and physical problems to people in society. However, I would always use better means other violence to achieve any mission or anything I do. Thanks to The Hail University community for teaching me these valuable lessons.